The more I date, the less I understand men. Truly. You would think I would have gained some great insights into how the male mind works, but I have not. There is still so much of this process that I just don’t get…like Mr. 48..
I think I approached him, but I’m not completely sure. Anyway, he was receptive right way to corresponding and making a connection. We sent a few e-mails, had a great conversation on the phone (where he was joking he was ready to marry me based on our similarities) and then continued texting for a couple of days before we met. We planned to meet at a local restaurant for dinner and I was actually looking forward to meeting…you would think I would know better by now!
By now, I have become a pro (well, maybe semi-pro) at reading my date’s body language. And his language was just saying no. It was a pleasant (there’s that word again!) conversation, but I was not feeling anything coming from his side of the table. Not that I was blown out of the water myself–it’s hard to get excited by someone who just doesn’t seem engaged at all..check please!
He paid the bill (yes, I offered) and there was obviously no risk of a good night kiss so we parted ways. Pleasantly. Ugh.
Lesson learned:
- I hate to say ‘fake it’ but don’t check out until the date is over. You owe your date that much.
- Never accept a marriage proposal before a first meeting–it’s probably insincere (ya think??)