By the time I got to Mr. 37, I have been dating pretty steadily for a couple of weeks and I am already getting tired of it! When Mr. 37 contacted me, I wasn’t even sure I wanted to go out with him, but in the spirit of ‘you can’t win if you don’t play” I said yes. After speaking briefly on the phone, we make arrangements to meet at a park near my home to walk our dogs. At this point, my beloved first dog (that went on my last dog date) had passed away and I had a new rescue dog to bring with me. It was supposed to be a beautiful day and I thought it would be a nice change of pace, dating wise that is.
According to Mr. 37’s profile, he was a widow. But after speaking to him on the phone, I found out he had remarried after his first wife passed and he was now divorced. But he still considered himself a widow–why do guys do that? He wasn’t the first guy I came across who were widowed and then divorced (Mr. 17 did the same thing) Hate to break it to you, guys, but you are as divorced as I am! Anyway, I figured we could talk more about it when we met.
I met him at the park and the absolute first thing I notice is that he is wearing a wedding ring on a chain around his neck–on the outside of his shirt. Frankly, he might as well have been wearing body armor at that point. Maybe the ring is special to him and he wants to wear it–fine, but on the outside of your shirt? That is just a bit too in your face for me! (not to mention the 5+ years he was remarried–did he wear it then too?) I don’t know, if you are still wearing a wedding ring from someone who died over 10 years ago–I’m just not feeling that you are ready to date.
It was truly a brief date–no matter what he said about being interested, I just couldn’t get past the ring. He seemed to sense my reluctance to see him again but he did say that maybe we could walk the dogs again–who actually did get along ok! It really is amazing how I’m 37 guys in and every date seems to bring new fodder for this blog….
Lessons learned:
1. It’s easy to get in a dating rut (coffee again??)–it’s nice to do something different for a change of pace
2. If you are ready to date–do not wear your wedding ring to a date! It’s kind of a mixed message–you think??