There are dates you will always remember because they are good (#17), those you will remember because they were so bad (#8, #19) and those you will struggle to remember because they were just ok (almost all the rest!) Mr. Fourteen was another very pleasant date–we met for coffee one morning and he seemed like a nice guy. He was, however, in what I would consider the early stages of separation and I’m not really sure he was ready to date yet.
Why is it that men feel the need to rush from marriage into a relationship right away? If I am sitting across from you and I ask you when your divorce will be final and you don’t even know (or worse yet, you have to count and you are using 1 hand’s worth of fingers)–it’s probably too soon to be dating.
One last thing–at the end of this date, he said he really wanted to see me again and take me to dinner–we even discussed potential restaurants. I sent him a thank you for the date and he responded by asking me my schedule for the next week so we could plan our dinner. I sent him my open evenings and…I am still waiting for a reply…really?
Lesson learned:
1. Beware of the dreaded ‘separated’–make sure separated really means available.
2. Even someone who asks you two different times may not actually take you out again.
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