You meet a lot of different kinds of men when you are actively dating….some are very good looking, some are average. Some are in great shape, some not so much. Some are very successful, some not as successful. You get the picture–all kinds of men are out there. Well, number 49 was not particularly attractive (at least to me) or in shape but he was very, shall we say, confident?
Now, confidence is usually a good thing–you need to believe it to be it and stuff like that but….this kind of confidence came off as condescending. Like he was better than everyone else…and he knew it. And wanted to make sure I knew it too. Except I didn’t really care, cause I felt like he was acting like a jerk and I couldn’t wait to end this date!
He started by telling me what a good college he went to and I’m thinking, ‘Dude, you went to college in the 70’s–can we get a little more recent?’ And he didn’t stop talking. About himself. And his life. And his business. I don’t always talk a lot on a first date because I want to hear about my date’s stories, but I couldn’t even get a word in edgewise. This was not a fun one!
I graciously ended it at about 1 hr 15 min, cause, honestly–I just didn’t want to hear anymore! I guess I didn’t appear impressed enough, cause I never heard from him again–thankfully!
Lessons learned:
- Confidence is good, but endless bragging–not so good. Find the balance!
- Remember there are 2 people on this date–let your date speak too!