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The more I date, the less I learn about men. Really. Just one little word, taken out of context, could put the brakes on a second date…allow me to explain (or attempt to explain) Mr. 45…..
We met online–I think I may have contacted him first, but I’m really not sure (I have to make more of an effort to write about these dates right after they happen–I am getting too old to remember these details–ugh!). It wasn’t really a physical attraction, per se, but he looked like a man who enjoyed doing fun stuff and I was really attracted to that. He also looked like he had a charitable side, and I was attracted to that. And he liked dogs. But also looked quite hairy–and I was not attracted to that–but I was willing to meet him and see how we meshed in person.
We decided to meet for dinner in a local restaurant that I had been wanting to try–again, not a real fan of the dinner date, but it was ok. He was nice and personable and while it wasn’t a love connection, I would have gone out on a second date to get to know him a little better and see where things can go from there….but we never got the chance!
A couple of days after our date, he texted me telling me about his weekend. At the time he texted me, I was taking a relaxing bath (I don’t do it often, but when I do–I just like to relax). Because my hands were wet (and I live in constant fear of dropping my phone in a bath, toilet or other body of water), I only typed back “nice” as a reply. No sarcasm, just nice. Well, that is obviously a trigger word for him cause he just answered with “I’m sorry, I won’t bother you”
When I dried off and attempted to explain that I was taking a bath and couldn’t really elaborate he just said he took it that I was busy or didn’t want to chat..I answered that I would tell him if that was so….and I never heard from him again! I imagine ‘nice’ is a trigger for him–too bad it’s a quality I really am searching for….next!
Lessons learned:
- If you have a trigger, you might want to work on that–what ‘nice’ meant to me and what ‘nice’ obviously meant to him were two different things. Lots of room for confusion there.
- Do not feel the need to answer a text immediately if you are doing something else–if I had waited, I might have given a longer response (although I’m sure it’s just a matter of time before I said ‘nice’ to something and he would have flipped out anyway!)
- I will probably never understand men
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