Every date is not memorable. That’s a fact. It is nice, however, to be remembered at least a little–but it doesn’t always happen that way. Meet Mr. 47…
He contacted me on my go-to site. He was a bit older than I like, but he was pleasant looking, local and a doctor. We corresponded a bit and then decided to meet for a burger at a local casual burger spot. I know dinner is not the first date of choice, but I figured a burger could go quick if the date took a turn for the worst!
It was a nice date. We had a few things in common and the conversation flowed pretty comfortably. We met much earlier than usual and I got the impression he might have had another date after ours–especially when he didn’t ask me for a followup at the end of the evening. I drove home figuring I wouldn’t be hearing from him again and was feeling ok about that.
Much to my surprise, I get a text the next day that just says pizza today?(no name or anything else so I even wondered if it was really for me!) As it turned out (and I had told him as well) I was going to see the Rolling Stones in concert and I wasn’t about to pass that up for a date so I politely declined and asked for a rain check….and never heard from him again…kind of…..
Two things happened after that date: About 3 weeks later (after not hearing from him again and figuring I wasn’t going to) I sent him an e-mail asking if he was interested in meeting a friend of mine who I thought would be a good match for him–I have no problem fixing dates up with my friends if we are going nowhere–but he never even answered. And then, about 6 months later….he writes to me again on the dating site–but has no idea that we even had gone out! I guess I am not as memorable as I hoped I was! (but I must at least be close to his ‘type’ since he approached me twice). I did let him know that we had already gone out–and I never heard from him again. Next…..
Lessons learned:
- You cannot take it personal! I can’t say this enough–you need a backbone made of steel if you are going to go through online dating!
- I see no problem in trying to fix up dates with others you think might be a match–if they don’t bite, that is just their loss.